I hate that. “You know what you should do…”. Always uttered by busy bodies trying to make it seem like they’re helping with the problem. This usually happens in meetings or social groups when more than two people gather in order to plan to accomplish something. This certain someone usually comes to the meeting with four or five ‘great ideas’.
“You know what you should do,” they say with excitement, “It’d be soooo easy to do this and do that and go back and do that again, because it’s so ugly right now, and it wouldn’t really take that long or that much money to…” Wow. It took you all of 2 seconds to knee-jerkishly dream up that idea before spewing it out on the table for us to clean up. Thanks.
Here’s an idea. How bout’, instead of puking out these half-baked ideas, which are apparently so great, how bout’ you fucking DO THEM. Sure, tell us about them. Make sure they’re good ideas. But execute. Not so easy, right? Oh, that’s right, you never sat down and rationally thought through just how much money, time, and effort that would take. You never thought if it was worth expending all of that money, time and effort to achieve whatever result they you were suggesting.
I think this comes from school. The teacher liked you a lot more when you raised your hand and spouted off the most answers. The more bullshit you could verbalize in front of the group, the more brownie points you got. Way to go.
Don’t tell, do. Don’t suggest, do. Shut your mouth and take action. If you really need to collaborate with the group in order to do it better, please, go ahead. Other than that, tell us what you’re going to do, and do it. Suggesting is one thing but actually doing is another. Do the aiki thing. Get it done.
P.S. This post isn’t directly pointed at anyone I currently know. I have experienced these people before in my days and was just talking to my wife about them the other day. Ghosts from the past is who inspired this one.
Three of my good friends just tested for their respected levels of black belt (dan) rank and I was fortunate enough to be able to see the test as well as partake in some of it. My next test will be for 2nd degree black-belt (nidan), so this post is mainly about that particular test (no offense, Austin, you crushed it). Although I haven’t been able to train, that hasn’t stopped me from stressing about taking my next test, even though I have no idea when that will be. It’s been about four years since I’ve been able to attend a nidan test, and since a lot of my stresses are from the unknown about what the test is like, it really helped seeing the test. What was really great, though, was seeing two people that I came up through the ranks with take that next step forward. I’ll explain.
The shodan (first degree black belt) test is performed in a very static, step-by-step fashion. We perform and demonstrate the techniques in this way to show we understand the very basics of the movement. In the nidan test, we’re expected to take those techniques into fluid, continuous motion (ki-no-nagare, as we call it). As easy as it sounds, this is not an easy step to make. The shodan test is such a big milestone, and we work for years on stop-start power positions and grounding after each step that, transitioning to fluid movement can be a challenge. It’s easier to break the techniques down into steps because our brain has a second to think about the next part of the technique when we do. With the nidan test, the whole movement needs to be fully together and integrated into a fluid motion.
Not seeing my friends train in six months, I haven’t seen the progression they’ve taken through the work they’ve put in to their test preparation to get to this point. What I saw was incredible and inspiring to say the least. There was a huge transformation from what I saw before. The movements were so incredibly effortless and smooth, yet still technically sound. The expressions on their faces were those of calm and control, as opposed to the ones seen on a shodan test which are more straining, naturally. Seeing them go up there and test made me very excited to be at this place in my training.
I see the shodan test as being the test where the steel is forged through variance of heat and cold, hammering your spirit through the technique constantly to get to a place of optimum strength and balance. Taken in comparison, the nidan test is one of smoothing out and sharpening the edges, filing and refining to make the sword accustomed to your use and aesthetic taste. You’re still fashioning the sword, but it’s a softer, more skillful touch. That was demonstrated masterfully on the tests and it was inspiring to be there and see it.
I follow Hugh MacLeod’s blog, gapingvoid.com, daily. This is his post for today along with the sweet cartoon above.
“One of the great tragedies of life, and you’ll find it deeply imbedded in every major world religion and mythology is to know that the power, the life spirit, is within you, and yet you choose to ignore it.
Call it rock n’ roll. Call it the voice of God. Call anything else.
Only you as an individual can decide to awaken it. It’s a decision only you can make.
And thank goodness for that….”
What a simple, yet profound, statement. That decision, that choice, to awaken the (insert name here). In Aikido, we call it ki. Rock on.
Garbage in, garbage out. Putting positive thoughts in your memory bank, leads to mental richness. You didn’t hear O’Sensei talk about how life was hell and we need Aikido to fight our way through it taking no prisoners. Although, come to think of it, he probably could have made a fortune developing an internet marketing campaign around that concept looking around at some of the shit they’re selling right now in internetland. Can you imagine the ad of him in a warehouse that’s been transformed into a gym wearing board shorts with a couple muscle cars in the background wearing a muscle shirt with his arms crossed saying, “If you follow my 7 steps, you too can be a fighting machine, bro”
There are martial arts out there whose underlying philosophy draws on these garbage mental and spiritual bank balances:
Scared to do something? Well, that’s not very Aiki now, is it? Some of us try visualizing. Here’s the technique: Sit there on your couch and visualize whatever it is you’re scared of, and see yourself doing it, successfully, over and over. Do this until you’re nice and comfy and the fear goes away. Then you get up to do it and… bitch out. Why does this happen? Because the nice little visualization you had on your comfy couch was a whole lot nicer and fuzzier than the reality of the situation. The reality has teeth. The visualization didn’t. Damn.
It’s that initial fear that is the bugger. I’m of the opinion that action is the only thing to cure your fear. It took me 28 years to have the cajones to be able to do a front flip off of the diving board. I remember that moment. Nobody else thought it was that big of a deal, but I did. All throughout childhood my friends did flip after flip after flippity flip into the pool. I’d end up doing a half-assed back flop and bail out at the last second. I stopped trying for years. One day, a few years ago, I didn’t make a big deal out of it. I just got up and… Did it. Ever since then, it’s been a piece of cake. I know, it’s nothing big, but it illustrates the point. Now if I could just learn how to swim.
Scared of taking that first highfall in training? Take a deep breath, focus, take some advice from your peers, and do it. Don’t make a big deal out of it. It’s only as big of a deal as you make of it. Once you get over the initial fear, visualization can help refine and streamline whatever it is you were scared of and help you get better at it. Before that… Jump.