action, the cure

Scared to do something?  Well, that’s not very Aiki now, is it?  Some of us try visualizing.  Here’s the technique: Sit there on your couch and visualize whatever it is you’re scared of, and see yourself doing it, successfully, over and over.  Do this until you’re nice and comfy and the fear goes away.  Then you get up to do it and… bitch out.  Why does this happen?  Because the nice little visualization you had on your comfy couch was a whole lot nicer and fuzzier than the reality of the situation.  The reality has teeth.  The visualization didn’t.  Damn.

It’s that initial fear that is the bugger.  I’m of the opinion that action is the only thing to cure your fear.  It took me 28 years to have the cajones to be able to do a front flip off of the diving board.  I remember that moment.  Nobody else thought it was that big of a deal, but I did.  All throughout childhood my friends did flip after flip after flippity flip into the pool.  I’d end up doing a half-assed back flop and bail out at the last second.  I stopped trying for years.  One day, a few years ago, I didn’t make a big deal out of it.  I just got up and… Did it.  Ever since then, it’s been a piece of cake.  I know, it’s nothing big, but it illustrates the point.  Now if I could just learn how to swim.

Scared of taking that first highfall in training?  Take a deep breath, focus, take some advice from your peers, and do it.  Don’t make a big deal out of it.  It’s only as big of a deal as you make of it.  Once you get over the initial fear, visualization can help refine and streamline whatever it is you were scared of and help you get better at it.  Before that…  Jump.

 

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  1. jennalundemo on

    It’s so true. I am always scared to do something..then once I actually try it, it’s all good! It’s the anticipation and fear of failing that keeps us from trying and accomplishing our dreams.

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